Relationships can be complicated and weird. You can fight with your lover just because of trivial things, like taking a long time to reply to messages or not calling when he said he would.
But then maybe, it’s not just about him not calling when he said he would. It could be about communication issues and insecurity between the two.
What to do when boyfriend says he will call but doesn’t?
You’ve been waiting on the line but he ain’t calling. That pisses you off because you have so much to talk about or you just miss him so much.
Well, calm down. There are many different reasons why he’s late calling, don’t jump to the conclusion that he forgot his promises or he could be busy with some other girls out there.
You know, he could be trapped in the traffic or he got deadlines or he helps someone in urgent situations.
Meanwhile, here’s what to do when boyfriend says he will call but doesn’t:
1. Wait for a reasonable amount of time before reaching out to him
Yes, someone who likes to be late is indeed disrespectful. But, won’t you wait for him to call for a minute?
It allows time for him to follow through on his promise and show his commitment to keeping his word.
This also gives you time to reflect on the situation and approach the conversation with a clear mind, rather than acting impulsively.
Additionally, it can help prevent misunderstandings and allow for a more productive and respectful conversation.
2. Avoid jumping to conclusions or overreacting
Girls can be so dramatic to think that their boys are cheating out there, without understanding what’s really going on when he may not call back in a few minutes.
Overreacting can escalate the situation, and create more tension, misunderstandings, and also conflict in the relationship.
Don’t jump into conclusion, stay still where you are, learn the problems before deciding things.
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3. Communicate directly and calmly with him about how you feel
You can nicely ask him where he’s been and you’ve been waiting to hear him back.
You can add a little joke or a nice cute sassy tone as you speak. Like, “Honey, do you almost get eaten by zombies again that it takes you so long to reach out to me? But I am so thankful you are safe..”
It’s important to be honest and direct about how you feel, but to also approach the conversation with empathy and understanding.
Then, both of you can learn to understand each other’s perspectives and work towards a resolution.
4. Agree on steps you can both take to ensure better communication in the future
It allows you and your boyfriend to identify specific actions that you can take to ensure that promises and commitments are kept in the future.
This can include setting clear expectations for communication, regularly checking in with each other, or finding new ways to stay connected.
By working together to improve communication, you can build trust and strengthen your relationship.
Additionally, having a plan in place for future communication can help prevent similar misunderstandings from happening again.
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5. Girl, do something else
What to do when boyfriend says he will call but doesn’t? You are not sitting or laying on your couch waiting for him to call, right?
Go do something else that you have to complete today. Or else, relax yourself by watching, cooking, eating, jogging, playing with pets, or other things that are more exciting than waiting. You have a choice not to wait, right?
6. Take responsibility for your own feelings and reactions
You should be in control of your own emotions. Cause you can’t control them to not doing what pisses you off.
Additionally, taking responsibility for your feelings and reactions can help you approach the situation with a clear mind and find a resolution that works for both partners.
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7. Discuss any underlying trust issues or relationship concerns
Trust is a crucial part of any relationship. Address the underlying issues having an open and honest conversation about your concerns and your feelings.
It helps you both identify any patterns or behaviors that may be contributing to the problem and work towards finding a solution.
8. Seek understanding and compromise, rather than blaming or criticizing
Blaming and criticizing can escalate the situation and harm the relationship. Maybe you two should sit and seek understanding and compromise to help resolve the issue and strengthen the relationship.
By taking a non-confrontational approach, you can maintain a respectful and healthy dynamic in your relationship and work towards finding a solution that works for both of you.
Maintaining a positive and productive dynamic in your relationship is crucial for its long-term success, and by following these tips, you can ensure that both partners feel heard and valued.
Yet if the relationship frustrates you and makes you hate yourself, or it’s just too much to handle, you can walk out the door.
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