What to do when my boyfriend says he can’t see a future?

What to do when my boyfriend says he can’t see a future? That’s a lot. That’s not the thing you wanna hear from the one you truly love, but that happened. 

What to do when my boyfriend says he can’t see a future? 

Here are some tips about what what to do when my boyfriend says he can’t see a future: 

1. Ask Nicely 

What kind of future? What’s the future for him? And, are you guys in a rush to get married soon so it’s really needed to talk about the future. Why don’t you just enjoy the present time while you try to figure out what you really want in the future life? Maybe he can’t see the future cause he is stuck in the past?

I mean, talking about the future is complicated. It’s not only about the future wife or husband, but the career, the job, the houses, and the bills, and so on. But when a guy tells you that he can’t see a future with you, mostly it’s just an excuse that he just doesn’t love you anymore. He never really cares about the real talk about the future, you know it. 

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2. Enjoy The Present 

I used to be that kind of girlfriend who loves to talk about the future -the wife and husband thingy- and I was just 22, lol. The guy I dated that time also loved to talk about it. 

One day he told me on a short text message that he cannot see a future with me even when I was wanna fight for it. Turned out, he found someone else. 

So, now I am thinking, I would just enjoy the present time with someone I love and do the best I could. Instead of worrying about whether I can marry him or not in the future. I mean, love him everyday and make it to the future. If one day he stops, then you stop too. 

3. Respect Him

Maybe he was really talking about the future life and he’s been thinking too much. If he tells you maybe he wants to get a nice job first, master his study, travel around, or have some family issue, or other reasons that makes him not ready for a committed relationship, then you gotta respect it. He made a choice. 

4. Don’t Wait for Him 

Don’t wait for him to change his mind to love you again. You cannot fight alone to prove that you have a future with him. The relationship will work only if the two of you fight it together. And it’s not like the future is something that can be seen, it’s something to fight for until you go there.

Read more: What to do when my boyfriend said he’s been thinking about breaking up with me?

5. The Exit Door 

If a guy tells you he can’t see a future with you, I think you should give up then. He doesn’t seem like he wants you or loves you, and he won’t fight for you. That would be one sided love. Instead of worrying about what to do when my boyfriend says he can’t see a future, you could just walk to the exit door. 

I’ll fight the future for you (maybe)
I’ll fight the future for you (maybe)
And hope we’ll reach morning
Hope we’ll reach morning
I thought you saw it too
I’ll fight the future for you (maybe)
I’ll fight the future for you (maybe)

Fight The Future
The Trees and The Wild

What he really means when he says he can’t see a future with you? 

There are so many possible reasons why he act like that, but that could be: 

  • He doesn’t love you. Hurt but maybe true. He tries to tell you the less painful excuse to leave you, don’t wanna look bad in front of you. 
  • He found someone else. I told you. Him saying he can’t see a future with you cause he thought he will have a future with that one new girl. 
  • He loves you but it’s hard. A lot of things going on in life and sometimes it’s just hard to explain. For someone with a mental issue, mostly it’s hard to keep up with someone. Or he might have another personal issue that he won’t tell you. 
  • Not meant to be. I used to brag about why can’t we be together and I blamed him for leaving. Now that I think, maybe we are just not meant to be. He is a nice guy and you are a nice girl, but it’s not meant to be. Don’t blame anyway. Kiss him goodbye and thank you. 

Goodbyes
And the autumn night
When we realized
We were falling out of love
There were some things
That were said
That weren’t meant

Never Meant
American Football

What you need to consider when he says he can’t see a future with you?

Now it’s about you, not only about him. If he says he can’t see a future with you, then can you see a future with someone who told you he can’t see a future with you? No. A big no. 

And here’s something to figure out if you are on this bad position: 

Do you love him? You probably do. You love him a lot. But love from one side is not enough to make it work. He needs to love you the same, so nobody is gonna hurt. 

  • Do you love him? You probably do. You love him a lot. But love from one side is not enough to make it work. He needs to love you the same, so nobody is gonna hurt. 
  • Does he love you? You ask yourself. Do you sleep well at night cause you made a good decision about the relationship? Does he make you happy? If not, you know the answer. 
  • Are you happy in this relationship? These old sayings, do what makes you happy! And I would say, you should be with someone who makes you happy. 

So, what to do when my boyfriend says he can’t see a future? You decide it, girl. Us and other people could only give you tips or opinions. Also, there are many reasons and stuff to consider, you are the only one who knows and feels that. 

That’s it. Hope this could help you out. Hope you find your some special one who sees the future in you real soon. 

Author: Verified Writer

I'll write to you. A super-long letter, like in an old-fashioned novel.” — Haruki Murakami

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